RE DISCOVERY

defining a new relationship

Is it different just because the other person is a
woman, not a man?

She says that she can love both... wants to love both.
She equates it to loving her friends. So, can you
have a really good friend that you have sex with -
that's not your spouse? And, at what cost to the core
relationship?

As exciting as it seems to me sometimes to have a
lover/friend on the side, my fear is the cost to my
relationship with my wife.

I guess the bottom line is the emotional pull, right?
The attachment to the person you are involved with at
the moment. It's like having two kids: you can't
show them both the same affection at the same time.
Ironically, that's the analogy she used for having a
g/f. That, to me is more the issue than the sex. I
guess, I don't know. I think I'm just having a hard
time adjusting to our "new" relationship. And, my
expectations of how this was going to work and how
it's actually working... are two different things.

in thought... but no gut-wrenching pain...

m.

posted by matt @ 6:35 AM