If you could be assured that you'd have a new love in a year... would you leave your current situation?
Well, my answer is no. I love her. My wife. In the short term, I'm there.
Here's part of what I posted back to the group:
Funny thing for me is this: About a week ago, I had a big "discussion" with my wife, I was asking lots of questions - in an effort to try and understand where she was with things, how she felt, where she was going, etc. Well, it was interpreted as me putting her on trial.
Long story short, we both ended up crying - and it was at that point that I realized my marriage - what it was or what I thought it was... WAS OVER. At that point, I started to look ahead. What was MY game plan? How would I plan for MY future. Nobody is taking care of me first except me. That doesn't mean I have to be selfish, but it's up to me as to how I will handle my situation and my needs, etc.
So, I've started spending some time with a couple of different female friends of mine. Not dating, just platonic stuff - lunch, etc. For me, it's incredibly gratifying. And, I'll probably do more of it.
So, in an effort to "be open," which is what she wants from me and wants to give to me, I've told her about these friends of mine. She knows one of them. I've also told her that I really enjoy seeing them, and how it keeps my focus off of her bi/lez discovery and that maybe I wouldn't feel the need to ask her questions so much.
Well, of course, she asks ME questions in response and now I think is rather upset with the whole idea. No dating, no nothing... but still a problem.
However, I have compassion for her. Just thought I'd post.
so... whatya think?
m.
posted by matt @ 1:45 PM
1 Comments:
I think you're right. :)
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