the philosophy of poly
Okay, so the question of the day is: Can you love more than one person? Can you love two people equally and express that love - including physical intimacy - to BOTH?It seems to me that it's easier to say "yes" to that question when you in fact, are in love with a new person other than your partner. I find that it's not as easy to answer "yes" when you are on the outside looking in at your partner who is in love with someone else besides, or in addition to, you.
But, many people are in love with more than one person, albeit without the physical intimacy. Personally, I'm not sure. I've found myself incredibly infatuated with a girl on occasion, someone I work with or someone I meet, etc. I then fantasize about being with them for a couple days and that's it. At least until lately.
Now it's like I have given myself the freedom to explore relationships further than before. It used to be a little fantasy and that's it. Now, I find I want to spend time with other women - one on one - and leave all options open.
I am quite horned out today. V and I went to lunch together, and I was quite turned on by her red dyed hair and tight pants. We have been getting along more in the past couple days, I don't know if it's because of her or me. She does have a new job and things are looking up for her.
So, C and I are hoping to have a nice weekend, as her trip to see her "girlfriend" has been postponed until June. Funny thing... I found a txt file on our desktop with what I think is one of her passwords somewhere, "love____." Maybe it's an old one. She says it would be like sleeping with her sister to be with her.
(She asked me last night if I'd heard from any of my "girlfriends.")
so... whatya think? I think you can love and be intimate with more than one person if one is allowed to do that! Will my partner allow me to have another lover?
M.
posted by matt @ 1:36 PM
4 Comments:
It's the crux of my novel. The answer is "yes" and "no." And "yes."
I dont think so....once you commit to somebody else you must be responsible enough!!!!
There's a saying that goes this way " If you love someone ...there's no turning back!!!
you can be in love with two people at the same time. however, it requires an openness that is unusual with most people. it's hard enough to find one person who is 60% honest in a relationship, polyamory probably requires more with all partners. then, there is the question of commitment. sure, we can be in love 3 together, but can we commit to each other as well? cheers.
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