RE DISCOVERY

therapy between the pages of a book

I've been reading this book called, "Too good to Leave - Too Bad to Stay." Here's one thing that sticks out in this book so far. Each chapter has a question to ask yourself about the relationship. One was if the good times you remember were really good, another was about physical abuse, etc. So, one of the questions in the 4th or 5th chapter was about if you and your partner had things you enjoyed doing together, and if you still do them. Wow. V and I used to cycle, take care of our house, and some other smaller things.

Seems as though V cares less and less about the household chores. I remember at Xmas I was the only one who decorated the house... (a first in the ten years we've been together.) She says she'll clean up the inside, I mow the yard. Guess what did and didn't get done yesterday.

The point this book is making is that if you both are doing things and activities apart from each other... it may spell trouble. (oh and your child doesn't count, as a child IS NOT the glue that holds a relationship together.)

so... whatya think?

posted by matt @ 7:17 AM