RE DISCOVERY

a change of pace

C and I came to an agreement that we can both see who we want. This after I explained to her something I'd been trying to articulate for a while now. Basically, it went like this:

"There are some things, certain things that turn me on sometimes. Various little quirks that sometimes just make me crazy - and on other days... I could take it or leave it. That's how I see that you view me... sometimes you are really interested in me, I really turn you on. Other days, perhaps most days, your sexual thoughts are directed toward being with a woman. And that's okay." (she agreed with me on this point.)
"I have a much bigger sex drive than you. Always have and probably always will. Now, I was okay with that because you and I were together and I think it's hard for two people to have exactly matching sex drives. (although these days I think it might be easier to match that.) But, since your lower sex drive is divided up between me and other women - and you want to be able to fulfill that desire. Fine. But I want to be able to fulfill my drive as well."

She did agree with this... the first time since she came out. She said she wants me to be happy and if that's what I want then fine. She also said later that she felt another woman would eventually want more than I could give her.

So, on the one hand, it seems like a breakthough in sort out/working things out. On the other hand, is it another attempt to keep me attached?

so... whatya think?

posted by matt @ 1:48 PM