RE DISCOVERY

the test

V's took our daughter to see her grandma. I was always planning on staying home, as it was a quick turnaround.

Until, V found out that I had plans with F the night before she was going to leave. Suddenly, I need to drop everything and go with her. It was, as she put it, the test of how I really care about her. It told the truth about my commitments, loyalty, etc. I thought it was a manipulative attempt to screw up my plans and be controlling.

So I stayed home. And, went out with F. We had a nice time - a few drinks, dinner and sat at the riverfront in the cool night air and talked for hours. No sex, but lots of talk about it.

All hell broke loose when she came back. I was hiding things, I wasn't telling her everything, she wasn't trying to ruin my plans - she really needed me, she always drops everything for me, I don't do anything nice for her...

Of course I didn't tell her everything! I wasn't hiding, I told her I was meeting F. She was trying to ruin my plans, I think she thought I was going to stay overnight - because that's what I think SHE would have done.

We had a long discussion when she returned. She says the previous agreement of mutual freedom is still valid. Apparently, I'm supposed to tell her all my desires and plans before I even make them. I want to. But, if she will meddle and work to screw them up all the time - fuck that!

that's the latest...

posted by matt @ 1:40 PM